Why some manager’s succeed and some struggle

Why do some people step into a manager's role and hit the ground running, while others are frustrated, stressed, and overwhelmed within months?

It's not random. And it's usually not about intelligence or work ethic.

I want you to hold a question in the back of your mind as you read this:

Did you ever blame yourself for a failure in a leadership role — when the real issue may have been somewhere else entirely?

Keep that question close. We'll come back to it.

A little context

I've been there. With over 30 years of experience both inside organizations and as an independent coach and trainer, I've seen and lived both sides, some wins, some losses. And I'll tell you, success is a lot more fun.

What kept me curious, through all of it, was a simple question: why does it work for some people and not others? The answer, almost every time, falls into one of three buckets. And understanding which one applies to your situation is the first step toward changing it.

According to Gallup, companies fail to choose the candidate with the right talent for the job 82% of the time. That stat alone tells you how much of this is a systemic problem, not just a personal one.

The three buckets

1. You and your skills

As an individual contributor, you knew your job and you were good at it. Leadership development was probably the last thing on your mind, you had a full plate, deadlines to hit, and nobody was lining up to invest in skills you hadn't asked for yet.

So when the promotion came, you brought everything you had. Except the one thing the new role actually required.

This isn't a character flaw. The most common reasons people don't develop leadership skills before they need them are practical: time constraints, no organizational support, fear that asking for development signals you're about to leave, and the very real problem of not knowing what you don't know.

The trap is continuing to operate as an individual contributor after you're supposed to be leading doing the work instead of developing the people doing the work.

Coaching question: If this bucket resonates, ask yourself, was the gap in your skills, or in the support you were given to develop them? There's a difference, and it matters.

2. The team

New managers don't fail in a vacuum. Sometimes the team is a significant part of the equation.

This shows up in a few ways: resistance to new procedures, passive-aggressive behavior from people loyal to the previous manager, trust that never quite gets established, and the slow creep of the new manager just... doing the work themselves because it's easier than fighting for buy-in.

The result? Bottlenecks. Low morale. A manager burning out trying to be both the leader and the best individual contributor on the team.

The teams who resist new leadership the hardest are often the ones who need strong leadership the most. That doesn't make it easier, but it makes it more important to get right.

Coaching question: If you've been in this situation, what did the team actually need from you that you weren't giving them, or that no one told you to give?

3. The organization

This one doesn't get talked about enough.

You were promoted because you were excellent at your job. But excellent at your job and ready to lead are two very different things, and most organizations either don't know that, or know it and look the other way.

The failures here are predictable: no formal training, undefined expectations, no mentorship, a "sink or swim" culture that mistakes surviving for thriving. New managers get handed a team and a title and a hearty good luck.

The downstream effects are burnout, micromanagement (which is almost always a symptom of insecurity, not control), and poor communication cascading from the top down through the team.

Coaching question: If you've been set up to figure it out on your own, what's one thing you wish someone had told you on day one?

So what actually works?

The managers who succeed consistently share a few things in common. They shift their identity from doer to leader. They invest in relationships before they need them. They communicate clearly, set expectations early, and stay curious when things get hard.

I frame this as moving through three stages: Clarity → Confidence → Credibility. When all three are present, management stops feeling like something happening to you and starts feeling like something you're actually doing on purpose.

Now, back to that question

Did you blame yourself for a failure that actually lived in one of these three buckets?

Most people do. And that misattribution is expensive, it shapes how you see yourself as a leader, what you believe you're capable of, and whether you're willing to try again.

So here's what I'd ask you to take away: identify your bucket. Not to assign blame, but to get honest about where the real work needs to happen. Because when you know what actually went wrong, you can actually fix it.

Which bucket do you fall into? Share your stories, I'd love to hear it in the comments.

Next week: why so many promoted managers quietly drift back to being individual contributors, and what it costs them.

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